Playing the online dating game is tough at the best of times. Faced with hundreds of profiles, most people make a snap judgement based on photos without bothering to read the profile description, which means you might like someone physically, but have nothing whatsoever to talk about when you meet up.
It is also very common to spend ages chatting to a few potential dates online, only to find that there is no chemistry when you do finally get together in the flesh.
Dating in rural areas is even more difficult—living in the country means you are probably miles from the nearest town and are therefore very likely to have to travel a fair distance for a date. And if that date subsequently turns out to be a complete waste of time, you may feel justifiably put out as a result.
Looks matter, and I would be lying if I said otherwise, but the key to a successful long-term relationship is having interests and hobbies in common. So rather than treat online dating as a lottery, hoping you are going to pick the winning ticket sooner rather than later, it is a good idea to increase your chances of success by selecting a date based on mutual interests rather than their “hotness” factor.
Lots of dating gurus recommend that single people sign up for evening classes and clubs as a way of meeting new people with whom they have something in common. There is a lot of sense in this advice, but if you don’t fancy learning a language or you find it hard to schedule one evening per week for a class, online niche dating is probably the next best thing.
Signing up for a dating site where everyone has at least one thing in common is a great way of ticking at least one box on your “must have” list. Right from the off you know that you have a mutual interest to talk about, which is a great icebreaker on a dating site. Instead of sending a generic message waffling on about how hot the person looks in their picture, you can start a conversation about the subject you both love.
Having at least one interest in common might not lead to a lasting relationship, but even if the chemistry is not there, you can still meet up and have plenty to talk about—which is a lot more than many first dates can claim to have! And let’s face it: there is nothing worse than sitting in a pub with a complete stranger, with very little to talk about apart from the atrocious weather we’ve been having…