So, you’ve succumbed to cyber-space and are venturing into the tumultuous world of online dating. You’ve trawled through the internet, read the heart-warming stories of couples brought back from the brink by finding their soul mate online and decided to give it a go. It’s not uncommon to have upwards of fifty questions to complete when filling out your profile and it can become exasperating. To prevent too much unwelcome attention or conversely the wrong sort of attention, we’ve got some helpful hints to speed up the process and hopefully find Mr or Mrs Right as soon as possible.
No silly pictures
There may be the most wonderful story behind it full of hilarity and laughter but one thing that’s almost guaranteed is that a potential suitor looking at you posing seductively next to a life-sized model of Donald Duck for example, won’t get the joke. Keep the pictures honest too – always a fan of a good cliché; honesty is the best policy – be honest from the outset. If you fell off a swing aged five and consequently have a chipped tooth, don’t photo shop it out, if you do you run the risk of some seriously awkward glances mouth-bound over dinner.
Don’t hash out your profile in two minutes before Eastenders comes on the TV. Take the time to write about yourself, this is in effect your first impression, so make it count. Granted people browsing won’t want to trawl through a dissertations worth of your life story but summing yourself up in a few short lines of text can equally dissuade people from contacting you.
Do it yourself
Despite what the movies tell you, spontaneously filling out your best friends profile after a drunken moment of inspiration (ever so slightly influenced by the empty bottles of red in the kitchen) rarely concludes in true love, marriage and an idyllic cottage in the country with a picket fence and a red door. We’d love it if it did but it doesn’t. Take the decision to go online consciously, soberly – and fill out your profile yourself.
Don’t click “Any” in answer to the preferred height, weight, occupation, likes, dislikes and ambitions boxes. Similarly specifying “Brad Pitt Only” and a “Need Not Apply” for any others may leave your inbox looking rather sparse. Set reasonable standards and again, be honest with what you’re looking for in a partner. Rather than believing being slightly fussier in your choices will result in lost opportunities in love, take the stance that you’ll not waste yours or another’s time going on a date and pursuing something that isn’t ever going to last.
Venturing into this world can invoke a sense of trepidation, not helped by the media, a lot of whose coverage is uninspiring to say the least for those looking for love. Its’ ultimately a numbers game and unless you give it a try, you’ll never know.
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